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Disclaimer: These blog posts are for informational and educational purposes only. It should not be taken as counselling/therapy advice or used as a substitute for such. You should always speak to your own counsellor.
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New Year's Resolutions and Prioritising "Us" in 2024
As the year starts to wind down, it is time to start pulling together the threads of the year, make sense of what we've learned,...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Dec 22, 20236 min read
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Money Disagreements
Conflict about money is a very common problem in couples - research from the 2014 APA Stress Survey shows that over a third of couples...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Jun 13, 20234 min read
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Small Positive Things Often
For great relationship health you need to invest in your relationship often. Grand gestures are good and fine, and certainly important on...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Nov 15, 20221 min read
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"Are you listening to me?": Tips on helping your partner feel heard and understood
Listening is an underrated art. Get it right, and our partner feels heard and understood. Get it wrong, and we run our responses on...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Sep 6, 20222 min read
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Uncertainty & Weighing up whether to Stay or Go
Weighing up whether to stay or go in your relationship is often filled with ambivalence and uncertainty. This often results because you...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Jul 18, 20227 min read
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5 Choices in Facing a Problem/Difficult Situation
When faced with a problem or a difficult situation, it can feel that we have no choices or that our choices have been taken away from...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Nov 10, 20211 min read
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Generosity is love in action
In 2014, researcher John Gottman listed kindness and generosity as the two most important elements in a lasting union. This is about...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Oct 15, 20212 min read
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What function does anger serve in your relationship?
Anger is a feeling state that can range from mild irritation to intense rage. The emotion of anger often results from a sense of...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Sep 12, 20213 min read
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Defensiveness - Own your part
Defensiveness is one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, which the Gottman's identify as particularly detrimental for couples in...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Sep 9, 20212 min read
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Secrets of (post-baby) couples whose sex life is going well
The Gottman's have written an excellent book some years ago for couples who are about to have, or have had, their first baby - And Baby...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Sep 4, 20211 min read
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Respectful relationships DON'T include...
In talking to many couples, I note that everyone wants a respectful relationship. In fact, no one has said to me so far that they don't...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Aug 28, 20211 min read
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Accepting your sexuality as it is right now
#sexuality #healthysexlife #relationshipssquared Disclaimer: This post is for informational and educational purposes only. It should not...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Aug 26, 20211 min read
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Common sexual misconceptions - which of these do you buy into?
If sex does not happen easily or naturally, you might believe that something is wrong with you, or your partner, or your relationship....
Dr Karin du Plessis
Aug 21, 20214 min read
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Helping your partner heal from your infidelity
Linda MacDonald's book: How to help your spouse heal from your affair identifies 15 tips to help your partner heal from your...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Jun 27, 20214 min read
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Investing in your friendship with your partner
One of the secrets of happy couples is that they continue to invest time and energy in their relationship and friendship. It is one of...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Feb 28, 20214 min read
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Do you allow yourself to be vulnerable?
Allowing ourselves to be fully seen in relationships takes courage. Vulnerability gives us opportunities to connect meaningfully with our...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Jan 17, 20211 min read
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Tips for couples on gatherings with loved ones
Love it or hate it or meh, the festive season is upon us. Here are a few tips which might help you have a smoother experience as a couple...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Dec 18, 20204 min read
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Getting back out there - dating after a breakup
It can be hard to get back out there after a breakup or divorce. And while the landscape, including online dating, might look quite...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Nov 2, 20203 min read
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Being a good listener
#goodlistening #attentiveness #relationshipssquared Disclaimer: This post is for informational and educational purposes only. It should...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Aug 2, 20201 min read
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'Destiny' or 'Growth' Relationship Mindsets
Which camp do you fall in? 'Soulmates' OR 'We can grow together'? Or a bit of both? This is no small question. Your answer to that...
Dr Karin du Plessis
Jun 19, 20202 min read
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