In talking to many couples, I note that everyone wants a respectful relationship. In fact, no one has said to me so far that they don't want a respectful relationship.
It can be helpful to think of the things which don't contribute to an atmosphere of having a respectful relationship, and catch ourselves when we note them in ourselves. I always caution couples to not 'weaponise' these guidelines by leaning over the fence and pointing them out to your partner or by doing the same thing back in retribution. While getting feedback on your behaviour can be helpful to hear if delivered in kind manner, its more often delivered as criticism and in a angry tone. For example, people often yell to their partner to stop yelling. Think of this as more of an area where you need to take personal responsibility for your own behaviour. Do you do any of the following with your partner?
Disclaimer: This post is for informational and educational purposes only. It should not be taken as counselling/therapy advice or used as a substitute for such. You should always speak to your own counsellor.